I want to start by saying that I didn’t think having this necklace would mean as much to me as it does; I always thought that the idea of memorial jewellery was a bit saccharine, a bit strange.
Then I lost the woman I loved most in the world. Because of this necklace, I have the comfort of feeling as if I’m keeping a tiny piece of her close to my chest, for the rest of my life. It is saccharine, and perhaps it is a bit strange, but it’s the smallest of comforts amidst the most painful of times. In my mind, you need to take those comforts where you can.
The necklace itself is beautiful - solid and weighty, considering its size. This design in particular struck me as perfect, as it symbolises our connection and entwinement; you have me, the silver circle, and her, the sparkling black. I chose black, I’d like to specify, not because it’s a colour associated with loss but because black goes with everything and I want to be able to wear it every day, with any outfit. I think she’d be proud of my reasoning, to be honest!
I chose to have the ashes showing, because I want the visual representation of her; I also personally think the necklace looks more beautiful this way, as it adds visual texture and looks unlike anything else I own.
This is a beautiful piece of jewellery, on top of being something which has a great deal of emotional value. I lost her nine weeks and two days ago, but I get to keep her close in some small, sentimental way with this lovely piece of jewellery.
Thank you.
